It
was a sad weekend, and I'm grateful that you both came to Webster for
Edie's burial service. You each made a long drive (alone) from
West Pittston and Syracuse. Thank you for
making this time in your busy schedules. You were special kids
in Edie's life, she loved you guys. You are equally important
to her partner Jon, who I'm sure appreciated your presence more than
anyone else. Alex, I'm so glad you came to Hill Street to chat
with Jon (Rob, you couldn't since you headed back to ESF the
afternoon of the service). Edie's passing last month was a
horrible shock to Jon, and he's struggling with grief, loneliness and
the prospect of moving from Hill Street where he's lived more than 25
years. It was nice that we also had time with Eric, Edie's
nephew who made a much longer trip from North Carolina.
Below
you'll find a copy of the obituary, a lovely tribute about Edie
posted to the funeral home's website, and a eulogy I wrote. My
remembrance was read by the funeral director, who Edie knew and could
pronounce the authentic name of Lake Webster. Rob, I will
always remember that you placed the box with Edie's ashes on ground
before burial - it's fitting that one of us did that.
Edith
McCausland Obituary
Webster
- Edith "Edie" McCausland, age 74, died Thursday, August
15, 2024, at UMass Memorial Health Care, University Campus,
Worcester.
Edie
was born in Worcester, MA, daughter of the late John B. and Theresa
(Hostak) McCausland in lived in Webster all her life.
In
addition to her parents, Edie was predeceased by her sister, Keith
"Nikki" McCausland. She leaves her life-long partner,
Jonathan R. Dodge of Webster; nephew, Eric Ewald of North Carolina; a
special cousin, Chris Rivers and several other cousins.
Edie
was a graduate of Bartlett High School, Class of 1968. She was
also a graduate of Massachusetts General Hospital School of Nursing,
where she earned her degree in nursing, and Clark University
Edie was a registered nurse having worked in the Worcester area her
entire career. She worked at Saint Vincent Hospital and UMass
Medical Center. She retired in 2013.
At
her request, there are no calling hours. Graveside services
will be held on Saturday, September 21, 2024, at 11 am in Saint
Anthony Cemetery, Webster. Shaw-Majercik Funeral Home, 48
School Street, Webster, is honored to have been entrusted with Edie's
arrangements. A memorial guest book is available at
www.shaw-majercik.com where you may post a message of condolence,
share a memory and/or light a candle in her memory.
Jeannie Cross: Edie
was my first – and longest – friend. We grew up next to each
other; played together – jacks on her porch, dolls in my basement;
walked to school together (starting with Hill Street School and if
she was still with us, would probably disown me for posting this
picture); go-go danced together (again, would disown me for
remembering this); spent teenage summer days at the Town Beach; and
kept me in touch with Webster long after I moved away. She was an old
soul by 5 or 6 – wise and mature beyond her years… a natural and
quiet leader. She helped organize at least one Bartlett ’68 reunion
and kept our group of friends connected for decades. Although we went
separate paths in and after high school, she made sure we stayed in
touch. At her instigation, we attended the Roseland Cottage Crafts
Festival a few times with another high school friend. Despite my
sorrow at Edie’s passing, I will carry her wit, wisdom and
persistence with me. She did much good in her life and now deserves
to rest in peace.
Edie
McCausland – A Remembrance
I began getting to know Edie about 25
years ago, when we were re-introduced at my grandmother's burial
service. My grandmother Phyllis McCausland Rivers is her aunt, so
Edie is my father's first cousin. Since the Rivers family is settled
in Pennsylvania, there hadn't been many opportunities to spend time
together. Edie thoughtfully invited me and my family to visit in
Webster.
This was the start of a wonderful
relationship with Edie and her partner Jon. They have been
incredibly welcoming and generous to us, and truly enjoyed my young
son Alex and before long his brother Robby. I have thought of Edie
and Jon as their honorary grandparents. There were many weekends
staying at their house on Hill Street. We chatted in the living
room, at the kitchen table and on the back porch overlooking their
lovely yard, often watching the boys play. The Hill Street home was
special to us, since it was built by Edie's great grandfather in the
late 1800's and has been owned in our family ever since. We had many
outings, including to local fairs, museums and Jon's best fishing
spots for Alex to try out. Coming from a mid-Atlantic state, during
one visit we got a kick out of crossing 2 state lines to have dinner
in Rhode Island.
Edie has been an important person in my
life, as she was important to everyone here today. She was
intelligent, strong and caring with a streak of New England
practicality. As a professional in nursing, for years Edie held a
responsible, demanding position as a nurse supervisor. She was a
frequent patron of the Dudley Library. Edie loved her nephew Eric,
who in his childhood spent many summers in Webster.
She
had losses and struggles, as we all do. Her father, my great Uncle
John, passed away when she was just 22. Edie had an early, brief
marriage which ended in a difficult divorce. She oversaw the care of
her Mom for several years after a debilitating stroke. This included
taking Aunt Theresa out from the nursing facility where she lived to
places like Webster Lake (actually, as my grandmother would
say, Lake Chargoggagoggmanchauggagoggchaubunagungamaugg).
I will always remember Aunt Theresa was delighted to hold my son
Robby when he was a baby.
Sadly,
Edie lost her sister Nikki in 2015 so became the last surviving
“McCausland” in our family. The name McCausland is
derived from MacAslan, a founding family of Clan Buchanan of the
Scottish Highlands. I'm not certain Edie was interested in this
family history, but the heritage lives on in my father David Buchanan
Rivers, my brother John McCausland Rivers and my son Robert Buchanan
Carroll.
Edie often spoke with me of her
longtime friends, nursing co-workers, and her yoga and gym pals.
Once she brought me along to a Friday yoga class. And the light in
Edie's life was Jon Dodge. He is a wonderful companion – she loved
hearing his laugh and listening to his many stories. They
were lucky to have 38 happy years together. Jon has been a committed
partner, which included bicycling, canoeing, travel and the
substantial effort of maintaining the Hill Street property. Jon did
everything he could to support Edie during her recent illness.
While we will miss her always, I'm
grateful that Edie's physical discomfort and pain have ended and feel
sure she's now at peace.
Christine Rivers, Sept.
21, 2024